Kiki Astor on Instagram: "What is your favorite post or hostess gift? Old money approved hostess gifts are thoughtful, useful, and never burdensome. A bottle of wine is a contribution to the evening, not a gift—and flowers, while lovely, can send your hostess scrambling for a vase mid–cocktail hour. The best gifts feel considered and effortless: a box of handwritten stationery, linen tea towels, a small silver frame, or a jar of homemade jam wrapped in grosgrain ribbon. True etiquette is about e